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(2 Cor 12:9a).

Defusing Anger

When I was flying home from a ministry trip yesterday I sat next to a woman on the plane who gave me a vivid illustration of the damage anger can do. Her brother and his wife had an argument a few weeks ago and when he turned to walk away, his wife angrily hit him with a metal crutch. The unsuspected blow caused internal injuries that almost cost him his life. Now his liver is not functioning; he needs a transplant to recover.

Oh the damage anger can do! We all regret the times it has dominated our emotions, resulting in words and actions we regret afterward. On the other hand, what a difference a temperate attitude would have in our own heart and in our relationships. Defusing anger will do wonders to restore marriages and reconcile parents with their children.

At the outset we should acknowledge that the emotion itself need not be sinful; it is a natural response to a perceived threat. "Be angry, and do not sin: do not let the sun go down on your wrath, nor give place to the devil" (Eph 4:26-27). So the emotion is somewhat automatic, but the way we deal with it is definitely a moral problem-- and a big one for many.

It's common to attempt to rationalize having a bad temper: "That's just my personality." "I inherited it from my parents." "I'm Irish" (as in Notre Dame University's 'Fighting Irish'). "I'm a redhead; what do you expect?!" "It's not my fault; everyone around me just makes me lose my temper!" -NOT!

If it were just an unchangeable trait like freckles, Scripture wouldn't exhort us to avoid selfish displays of temper: "But now you yourselves are to put off all these: anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy language out of your mouth" (Col 3:8). "For the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God" (Jas 1:20).

Living wisely includes cultivating a peaceful disposition. Proverbs declares "[The one] slow to anger [is] better than the mighty, And he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city." (16:32 Cf. 14:17; 27:4; 19:11)

The past is littered with negative examples of the damage caused by human wrath. It deprived Moses of entrance into the Promised Land (Num 20:10); It caused King Asa to be stricken with leprosy (2 Chron 16:10); and it drove proud Haman to persecute the Jews until he himself was condemned and executed (Esther 3:5). At the dawn of history Cain murdered his brother Abel due to unresolved anger. The LORD had warned him, "Why are you angry? And why has your countenance fallen? If you do well, will you not be accepted? And if you do not do well, sin lies at the door. And its desire [is] for you, but you should rule over it" (Gen 3:6-7) This sin crouches at our door too, but it can be mastered by the power of the indwelling Christ! (Phil 4:13).

However, someone may think that anger isn't a problem for us because God is said to be "angry" in Scripture. His anger, however, springs from a zeal to defend justice (Psalm 90:7,9,11). God's holy anger never contradicts His nature of unfailing love (1 John 4:8-12).

And some have questioned episodes in the life of Jesus that reveal anger. Yes, Christ had anger when He cursed the fig tree, yet this act was a parabolic warning. As the fig tree in leaf should have had early figs at that time of year (although it wasn't yet the season of fully ripened ones), so Israel appeared eager to celebrate their Messiah, but in reality had no "fruit" of repentance and faith in Him (Matt 21:18-22; Cf. Isaiah 5:1-7 which uses similar imagery). Christ also used the miraculous withering of the tree to teach the value of faith in prayer.

The most obvious case of wrath in Christ's ministry is the cleansing of the temple (John 2:13-17). Here we have a case of righteous indignation. The Court of the Gentiles should have been treated with respect; it was the place of prayer for non-Jewish believers in God. Instead it was an opportunity for the religious leaders to operate a business of currency exchange and animal selling--at exorbitant prices. The Sadducees were raking in a huge profit and causing financial strain on Jerusalem's pilgrims.

But we resist the temptation to say, "My angry episodes are due to righteous indignation"! I like W.E. Sangster's answer to that excuse: "We shall call anger 'righteous indignation' when pure concern for the suffering of others leads a man to bold and costly action, and we shall call it something else (however natural it may be!) when their blazing indignation has been provoked by some set-back to themselves. It may still seem 'righteous' in their own eyes, but we are not the best judges of our own 'righteousness.' In any case, Christ's example is clear. Nothing that ever happened in this universe was more unrighteous than the Cross. But they did not crucify an angry man." [1]

Sangster also commented on the unique qualities of Jesus' anger: "Anger is natural at one level and supernatural at another. The natural man blazes with anger at personal injury and injustice, but bears with shocking composure the greater iniquities and injustices of others. Christ bore with sublime serenity the heaped up indignities and injustices heaped upon Himself, and burned with anger at the foul exploitation of the truly pious and the poor. The difference is clear, clean and enormous. Hate at its most venomous nails Him to two pieces of wood and provokes Him to nothing but prayers for His murderers' pardon." [2]

What ignites the fire of anger in the heart? FIRST, anger rises when we feel that our rights have been violated. This reminds me of the time about 15 years ago when a wayward cyclist ran into the fender of my parked car. After he evidently rode away I realized what had happened and went out to the road side to inspect my car. There was a sizable dent! Was I thinking about the dazed cyclist who by then was out of sight? No, I was mad that my car was DENTED! What right of mine was violated? The assumed right to have an undented car! Think about your last angry episode (a long time ago, right?!) What right can you trace the anger back to?

There is a radical solution to cure most inappropriate anger: GIVE UP YOUR RIGHTS! No, I didn't say it would be an easy or popular answer, but it is a biblical and effective one.

Paul testified that he was a bondservant (Greek--'doulos') of the Lord Jesus (Rom 1:1; Gal 1:10) and so are we (1 Cor 7:22). Even Christ adopted this attitude for his earthly ministry--He took the form of a servant (Phil 2:7). And how many rights does a bond servant have? About zero.

This doesn't mean that we are to be doormats (John 18:23).However, when we yield our rights to God, those around us are still responsible to obey God's commandment to treat us with love (Matt 22:39) and will be held accountable if they do not (Rom 12:19; Gal 6:7). This frees us up to humble ourselves when mistreated, knowing that God will give us more grace (the desire and power to do His will with joy-James 4:6).

A SECOND solution to avoid selfish anger is to maintain a clear conscience. Tension of the unresolved guilt from previous failures "shortens our fuse" in our relationships with others. "He who sows iniquity will reap sorrow, And the rod of his anger will fail" (Prov 22:8). Our defense against guilt is the righteousness freely given us when we take refuge in Christ (1 Cor 1:30). And as we walk in the light we enjoy unhindered communion with God and the ongoing cleansing that is maintained by confessing known sin (1 John 1:3-9).

In the legend of Sinbad, he and his sailors landed on a tropical island where they needed food and drink. High in the trees, beyond their reach, were coconuts. But how to get them? There were apes perched high in the trees, oblivious to their plight. So the sailors threw stones and sticks up at the apes. Instead of swinging away, the apes grew mad and picked the closest objects to throw back at the men on the ground--the coconuts! But that is just what the men wanted and their plan was successful! Even so, our anger may incite us to act out of the flesh and so play into the hands of the Enemy (and we don't want him to make a 'monkey' out of us. . .).

As we depend upon the Holy Spirit's strength, we need an effective strategy for dealing with conflicts. James advises us to, "be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath" (1:19). And Proverbs counsels us that, "A soft answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger" (15:1). Someone has said, "Swallowing angry words before you say them is better than having to eat them afterwards."

We can defuse selfish anger when Christ is living in and through us (Gal 2:20). As we abide in Him, the fruit of His supernatural life is expressed, including "love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control" (Gal 5:22,23). May we seek His grace to replace anger with supernatural patience!

JBW

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vol. 3 #40 October 3, 2000

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